The Window View

Monday, December 17, 2012
Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window.

The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation. And every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his room-mate all the things he could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside. The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color of the rainbow. Grand old trees graced the landscape, and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

Then unexpectedly, a sinister thought entered his mind. Why should the other man alone experience all the pleasures of seeing everything while he himself never got to see anything? It didn't seem fair. At first thought the man felt ashamed. But as the days passed and he missed seeing more sights, his envy eroded into resentment and soon turned him sour. He began to brood and he found himself unable to sleep. He should be by that window - that thought, and only that thought now controlled his life.

Late one night as he lay staring at the ceiling, the man by the window began to cough. He was choking on the fluid in his lungs. The other man watched in the dimly lit room as the struggling man by the window groped for the button to call for help. Listening from across the room he never moved, never pushed his own button which would have brought the nurse running in. In less than five minutes the coughing and choking stopped, along with that the sound of breathing. Now there was only silence-deathly silence.

The following morning the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths. When she found the lifeless body of the man by the window, she was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take it away. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the world outside. Finally, he would have the joy of seeing it all himself. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall.

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.

The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. She said, "Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you."
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Moral of the story is... There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations. Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.

If you want to feel rich, just count all of the things you have that money can't buy.
As blessed as you are, always remember that there are people less fortunate than you. While it is not an obligation to help anyone, you don't lose anything by sharing some love. Happiness shared is doubled, remember?

time to say goodbye

Friday, December 7, 2012
a colleague asked me a question after lunch one of the last few days when i was in Germany,"What will you miss about the most here?" I couldn't answer him. It was quite weird for me bcos i had been thinking about that question for awhile and a few answers came up, but when he asked i just froze and couldn't give a define answer. 

Today was the 2nd last day of work. You can feel that some of the colleagues that are personally closer to you will be more 'acceptable' to your departure. You could tell, certainly I did. And certainly i felt it too.

Start the day with the friendliest smile from our colleague as we hop into his Ford. Every morning is always pleasant with a smile on your face.
It's nostalgic thinking about these 3 months. I finally gave myself an answer that i would miss the most is the new bonds and friendships i've made. Screw the fact that i didn't do as well as i wanted to here, i know the relationships and experiences i've had were way way way more fulfilling than those extra 5 marks. Bonds and experiences like these are priceless. And no this is not an excuse. 

To know that you won't be able to see some people for the rest of your life makes you feel really sad, those that matter anyway. But it really gets you thinking, you know? Especially since when I started out with a horrible communication barrier between my colleagues and I. But over the 3 months, words could not define the conversations I had with any one of these colleagues. 

It's when you're stuck in a faraway land that you realise your social networking is so limited it makes your daily activities the main topics of your conversations. making everyday's small actions more special and meaningful.

Since this was the first time for my working, like literally. I can't compare and say that Germany has a much better vibe of working environment. But surely if this is the 'real' world, then life wouldn't suck that much after all. Actually i know that Singapore working environment would be worse..? I guess. Especially since Germany's engineering is so sought after and that Singapore's Engineering is labelled as 'no life dead end' jobs. Maybe i might come back here, i honestly won't know. Like my fellow German colleague told me, " No one knows the future.

To end this off, i really like to say Thank You Jenoptik, Hommel-Etamic, and all my colleagues to make this 3 months less painful as I would had initially thought it would be.

And also, a phrase that'll remain in my soul for the rest of my working life, a common German phrase i've learnt and.. applied *laugh* : "Tomorrow is Another Day!"


"Need You Now"

Picture perfect memories scattered all around the floor.
Reaching for the phone 'cause I can't fight it anymore.
And I wonder if I ever cross your mind?
For me it happens all the time.

[Chorus:]
It's a quarter after one, I'm all alone and I need you now.
Said I wouldn't call but I've lost all control and I need you now.
And I don't know how I can do without.
I just need you now.

Another shot of whiskey, can't stop looking at the door.
Wishing you'd come sweeping in the way you did before.
And I wonder if I ever cross your mind?
For me it happens all the time.


[Chorus:]
It's a quarter after one, I'm a little drunk and I need you now.
Said I wouldn't call but I've lost all control and I need you now.
And I don't know how I can do without.
I just need you now.

Oh whoa
Yes I'd rather hurt than feel nothing at all.

[Chorus:]
It's a quarter after one, I'm all alone and I need you now.
And I said I wouldn't call but I'm a little drunk and I need you now.
Well I don't know how I can do without.
I just need you now
I just need you now.
Oh baby I need you now.